First dates are a unique beast. The first date is like the first time at a new job, and more often than not, there's excitement mixed in with nerves. You walk in and suddenly are wondering how to navigate this new situation. If you have felt like this or are feeling like this at the moment you are not alone. It's typical to experience some nervousness on a first date. For many women, though, there's an added layer of difficulty. How to tap into your femininity and allow the dating process to unfold in the most natural way possible? The main thing to remember is being feminine is the ability to be soft, receptive, and relaxed. There are many ways you can do this on the first date keep on reading and I will let you know how you can do just that so you can have fun with it from now on.
Reframe the idea of the first date
"The first date is a wonderful opportunity to get to know someone in an intimate setting."
Don't put so much pressure on one night. Instead of stressing over how you'll come across, why not reframe the evening as an opportunity for both of you to learn more about each other? The first date is a wonderful opportunity to get to know someone in an intimate setting. You'll have time to enjoy each other's company and get a sense of who they really are. You might be surprised at how much you can learn about a person in just one evening. So relax! You're both taking this time out of your busy lives just for each other, so don't let self-doubt ruin your evening.
Be yourself
In dating, too often we think we need to change something about ourselves or try to mould ourselves into some idealized version of who we think they're looking for. This can cause you to become anxious, which makes you less attractive. The reality is that when you're being your authentic selves, people naturally respond well because they can see that you're comfortable in your own skin and confident with who you are as a person. And when men see that in a woman, they can't help but respond positively because it makes them feel good too! Be comfortable in your own skin and don’t worry about what anyone else thinks.
Look good and smell good
Men are very visual creatures and appreciate when a woman takes the time to look nice for them. If you're interested in your date, take care of yourself and make an effort to look great. If you're not, then don't go out with him at all! If he's worth it, he won't mind waiting until you've got the time and energy to put into your appearance. This doesn't mean you have to spend hours in front of the mirror or go on a shopping spree for new clothes. It does mean that you should take care of what you already have, but here are some quick tips on what you should do to ensure that you are looking and smelling your best on your date.
Look good: Wear something that makes you feel confident, comfortable and sexy. If your outfit isn't right for your body type, it can be very distracting and make you feel self-conscious. Plus, it's much harder to have a good time when you're worried about how you look.
Smell good: Spray perfume on your neck before going out on a date so that when he leans in close to talk to you he will immediately be entranced. It's true! A great scent can be your secret weapon and it will help you feel more confident and relaxed too.
Be prepared to let him lead
"Men want to take care of their woman, so they'll do whatever they can to make her feel comfortable. "
One of the best ways to get into a feminine state of mind is by allowing yourself to be vulnerable and letting someone else take care of you. It's easy sometimes to get caught up in all the things you think you need to do right and forget that you're a woman, not a man. Men are more naturally inclined toward taking charge of situations and leading people. Women often feel that they have to step in and take over, but this is not how we're wired. Men want to take care of their women, so they'll do whatever they can to make them feel comfortable. If it's been a while since you've dated or had a boyfriend, then you may not be used to being treated like a lady. But if you let your date do the heavy lifting and take charge of certain aspects of your date like choosing where to go, paying for dinner or opening doors for you, then he'll feel like he's doing something right and will probably want to continue this on future dates. Being able to give up control can be hard for some women, but it's worth the effort because it makes you feel good about yourself and helps you connect with your partner on an intimate level; in fact, being passive at times can help him relax and open up about himself too!
Be open and curious
"Men love to talk about themselves, so listen intently, ask questions and show interest in his life."
The best way to connect with a man is to be curious about who he is and what makes him tick. Men love to talk about themselves, so listen intently, ask questions and show interest in his life. If you feel comfortable enough, let him know what interests you. You might even discover some mutual interests or hobbies that could become the basis for future dates. Ask questions that lead to a conversation: "What do you like most about your job?" "What's your favourite childhood memory?" These types of questions will help you get to know each other better without the pressure of having to say something brilliant at every moment. Don't worry if there are awkward pauses where neither of you knows what to say next; those are normal during any first meeting between two people who don't know each other very well yet.
Give yourself permission to have fun and be playful
If you're the type of person who is more serious or reserved, it can be hard to know how to loosen up and let loose when you're out with someone new. But it's crucial that you do! Being playful and having fun shows that you're open-minded, confident, and comfortable in your own skin. It also makes you more attractive to men — they'll want to get closer to you if they see that your personality is so fun and carefree.
Here are three ways you can be more playful:
1. Make light of the situation
Don't freak out when things start getting serious between the two of you! Instead, try making light of the situation by joking about it. This will show that you're not too serious about everything, which will make both of you relax more during the date and help build attraction between each other.
2. Be a little bit of a flirt
Don't be afraid of flirting with him! Flirting is an art form and done correctly can show a man that you're interested in him without giving away too much too soon, which may scare him off! Flirting is also a great way to make a man feel special, so if he likes you, he'll appreciate it.
3. Don't take yourself so seriously
Letting your guard down and showing some vulnerability is important when it comes to creating chemistry with someone new — but sometimes we get so caught up in trying not to seem "too serious" that we
Be Appreciative
"By doing this, you are reinforcing all the good things about him in a very subtle way that will make him feel good about himself. "
If they went all out trying to plan something special for the two of you, let them know how much it means to you. You don't have to gush over every detail, but if they took the time to plan something that they knew would interest or excite you, it's worth mentioning. If he brings flowers or a gift, don't say "I'd have preferred something else." That's dismissive and rude. Instead, say "Thank you; these are beautiful!" or "Thank you for thinking of me." By doing this, you are reinforcing all the good things about him in a very subtle way that will make him feel good about himself. He will want to continue being nice to you because it makes him feel good when people appreciate his efforts.
Don’t talk about your exes or past relationships on
the first date!
There are so many reasons why you shouldn’t talk about your exes on the first date. For starters, it puts you in a reactive state rather than an active one. You will be thinking about what they did wrong, how upset you were at the time, how much you miss them or don’t, etc. Your brain will be filled with negative thoughts and emotions that can easily spill over into other areas of your life like work. It also puts the focus on someone else and not on this new person in front. Remember this date is about getting to know each other and finding out if there is chemistry between you two, don't take away from that.
Know when to end the date on a high note
You should have an idea of where things are going by now, so keep an eye out for signs that it's time to go home. Don't drag out an evening that has run its course, if you've had enough fun together, let him know that you enjoyed spending time with him. If you like him and he likes you, he's likely to ask you out again. If things don't go well or if they go well but not exactly how you expected, cut your losses early and move on with life, there are plenty of fish in the sea!
Enjoy the date. Do what feels natural to you. Most importantly, have a good time! If you can walk away from the experience feeling joyful and self-confident, you've already accomplished the goal of any first date: to have a good time. If the night ends with a warm hug and smile, even better.
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