Whenever we're in a relationship, there's always room for improvement. You can't expect everything to be perfect all the time, but you should be trying to make your relationship better every day, with every interaction. Love is not just about making compromises. Love also means doing things for your partner to create an even greater sense of intimacy. Here are 11 ways that you and your partner can make your relationship better.
1. Head to bed at the same time
You and your partner should head to bed at the same time. Regularly going to bed at the same time can help you maintain a healthy relationship. A study has found that couples who go to sleep at the same time are more satisfied with their relationships. The study, which was undertaken by the University of Arizona, found that going to bed at the same time as a partner leads to greater intimacy and trust.
2. Create a safe space for you and your partner
Creating a safe space for both of you to be vulnerable is a key ingredient to building intimacy in your relationship. It allows you to see each other without pretences or defences.
Ways you can do this:
-Be honest without judgment or criticism. When you show each other your vulnerabilities, that creates an opportunity for greater honesty in the relationship.
-Ask questions that allow each of you to see deeper into each other's thoughts and feelings. Asking meaningful questions can help deepen the trust between two people.
-Listen attentively when your partner shares something with you. Try not to react with judgments or criticisms. Be open-minded about what your partner has to say.
3. Have unique experiences together
"Developing a relationship based on being exactly like everyone else will lead to boredom, unfulfillment and eventually resentment."
Do you and your partner have any unique experiences together? Maybe you've travelled somewhere that your friends haven't, or competed in a sporting event, or taken a martial arts class together. Things like these help couples to bond, and they can be a great topic of conversation. As a couple, you should have unique experiences together. Your relationship is your own and no one else's. Developing a relationship based on being exactly like everyone else will lead to boredom, unfulfillment and eventually resentment. Adding some spice to your life can give you some excitement.
4 . Remember little gestures of love matter
Whether you have been together for a day or 10 years, dating never stops. It's not enough to spend your time with someone you love; you have to make an effort to show them that you love them too. There are so many different ways to surprise your partner with loving gestures, but here are some suggestions:
-Take them on a picnic
- Go for a walk together
- Create a love coupon book for them to redeem throughout the year – you can include things like "a foot rub", "a kiss", and "a hug"
- Write down five reasons you love them and then put the list somewhere they'll see it regularly
- Leave them an anonymous love note somewhere they'll find it
- Ask them what they're passionate about, then help them do something that fulfils their passion
- Hold hands as you walk through the city or on a nature trail
-Give them a full-body massage
-Give them their favourite flowers or chocolates when they least expect it
- Create a memory jar for them to save cards and other small items from memorable moments throughout the year.
- Send him/her sweet texts throughout the day.
- Surprise them with an unexpected trip somewhere they always wanted to go but never had a chance to go yet.
- Show them they're important by remembering the little details, like their favourite colour or food, their family members' names, etc.
5. Learn their love language
Learning how to love someone is a process. It's a journey that takes time, effort and energy. It's also a process that will never be completed because the minute you think you have perfected it, life comes along and teaches you something new. The 5 Love Languages is the best-selling relationship book in the world for a reason: it's pretty spot on. And one of the biggest takeaways from it is learning your partner's love language and speaking it back to them. If you're trying to figure out how to love someone or better understand your partner, learning their love language is an important step in that process because every person has a primary way they prefer to receive love from another. There are five different ways we all communicate and express our feelings for one another: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch.
The 5 love languages- The secret to love that lasts by Gary Chapman
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6. Learn how to have tough conversations
A small conflict or disagreement is inevitable in every relationship. But how you handle them is what will determine whether or not they'll become bigger problems in the future. The key to learning how to have tough conversations with your partner is to approach them calmly and rationally, from a place of love and respect. This way, even if you're dealing with something that might cause some contention, you'll be able to do so in a manner that doesn't make things worse. After all, if you want something fixed, it's best to do so right away before it becomes a big problem. So below we'll teach you how to have tough conversations with your partner by providing you with some helpful tips and tricks.
- The first thing that you need to realize when having conversations like this is that you're both on the same team here. Your goal isn't to prove who's right or wrong or who did what and why, it is to solve the problem together.
- Explain the problem in detail and give examples. Let your partner respond and acknowledge his or her feelings. Then, explain how the situation is affecting you. This lets your partner know how this affects both of you.
- Don't blame them for the problem. This can make them defensive or even angry before they consider your perspective. You should also avoid pointing out all of their mistakes first without explaining yours. This is especially important if you've made several mistakes in the past and only want to talk about one specific mistake.
- Come up with a solution together. If there is a solution to the problem, be on the page about what that should be. This will show your partner that you are willing to work together and will be more likely to follow through with any plan.
7. Regularly plan date nights
"When you spend time with your partner on a regular basis it makes you feel closer."
Date nights are a great way to get back in touch with your partner. They help you feel closer and they can also make you appear more attractive to each other. When you spend time with your partner on a regular basis it makes you feel closer. You have more things to talk about and you share more intimate moments together Date nights should be planned in advance. If you suddenly decide that tonight will be date night without discussing it with your partner, it won't work out that way
Here are some tips for boyfriends on how to plan a perfect date night:
- Choose something that the two of you like or enjoy doing, whether it is watching a movie, going out for dinner or even playing board games at home. It will not only create memories but also strengthen your bond.
-Be prepared: You might think that this common sense but it would be humiliating if your date night did not go according to plan because you forgot something important like the tickets, money or any other thing.
8. Check in throughout the day
When you're in a relationship, checking in throughout the day with your partner is important. It lets them know that you're thinking of them and what they're up to. Not only that, checking in can improve your relationship by making it stronger and more connected. If you and your partner are not checking in, this is an area that deserves some attention. Here's how you can start checking in with your partner throughout the day:
- Set a daily reminder on your phone or computer to check in with each other. This can be as short as 10-15 minutes per conversation at least once per day.
- Make it a habit to share positive interactions with one another throughout the day. Doing this regularly will make it easier for you to check in with each other during those daily reminders and will help you build stronger bonds of love over time.
- Share something about your day with each other during these check-ins. Perhaps you had a difficult moment at work, or maybe your partner had difficulty getting their child to behave during their last outing together.
If you are not used to spending a lot of time together and you can find something that you both enjoy doing, it will help to begin an interesting conversation. That way, you will have something else to talk about rather than just the relationship issue. If you are already in a long term relationship and things have become dull, then start doing something new together. For example, if your partner enjoys reading fiction books and you enjoy cooking, then plan your weekends around those activities. If both of you enjoy sports then try taking up a new sport together. You can also start involving your partner in your activities. For instance, if you love gardening, take him/her along on your trips to the garden store or invite them to join in while tending to your plants at home.
10.Go offline together
Did you know that spending time offline with your partner can actually improve your relationship? It's true. it helps you both focus on making your relationship deeper and more meaningful. Make sure the two of you regularly go offline together where no phones or computers can distract you to discuss the things that are most important to you. That could include your goals, your values, and your shared experiences or treat your partner to a fun afternoon away from technology. Get out of the house or stay at home and bust out your board games, books and puzzles. A recent study in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found that couples who did this were less likely to experience negative interactions with one another later on, which makes your relationship stronger and more secure over the long term.
11 Spend time apart
"Spending time away from your partner is a great way to strengthen the relationship because you get better at communicating with each other, you get better at understanding each other's needs"
When you spend time apart, you are forced to think about why you love your partner. You are forced to acknowledge that love and even sometimes have to work for it. You can start to recognize what your partner does for you and how much you value it. Spending time away from your partner is a great way to strengthen the relationship because you get better at communicating with each other, you get better at understanding each other's needs, and you become more grateful for each other. If your relationship has been stagnating lately, consider taking a little bit of time apart from each other. It might help both of you realize that you love each other even more than before!
In any relationship, you have to try and make time for each other. In our fast-paced, work-driven world it can be easy to forget about the people you love most! It’s important to make an effort to do more together without being too rigid. Remember that compromise is key – neither of you should have to give up everything for the other person. If you are both prepared to work on your relationship with the above in mind, then there’s no reason why you shouldn’t be able to strengthen your relationship and make it happier than ever!
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